Win Eker


Weep not for me
The ultimate gardener

Weep not for me when I have gone,

I've lived my life; I've sung my song.

Known tears and laughter, sun and rain

A life that brought more joy than pain.

I've been content with love so deep

That peacefully I'll ever sleep.

A love we've shared with joy untold

That kept me young though I grew old.

I've held my babies in my arms

And felt the thrill of their sweet charms.

Had many friends and family too

That smoothed the way as I passed through.

Weep not for me, when life is done

For I have been the richest one.

Mary, Mary quite contrary, how does your garden grow?
Just take a look at the garden and then you will get to know
There are all manner of gardens when you stop to look around
For vegetables and fruit trees and some that are just plain ground
But if you take a good long look you can see a great deal more
You see the secrets hidden behind the gardener’s own front door
The straight neat rows of carrots and parsnips or peas and chive
Show the soul of a gardener whose sole aim is to provide
Whilst the orchards and the fruit crops yielding annual provisions
Speak of planning and foresight and long term ambitions
But the garden full of roses of mixed perfumes and hue
Belongs to the real romantic whose heart is gentle and true
These are the all year gardeners who lovingly nurture their crop
Knowing by instinct when to prune and precisely when to stop
They use all their skills and loving care to keep young buds from harm
So when in full bloom they’ll face the world and display their very own charm
The big and the bold may seem strong but need as much tender care
As the frail and delicate blossoms to display their unique flare
So I ask my family gathered here on this auspicious day
If you don’t agree with all your heart when I sincerely say
How lucky are we that our roots go back beyond the very front door
Of this beautiful, gentle lady who gave us her love and much more.


Bob's eulogy
Tribute
Mrs W. E. Eker was a lady of diminutive stance yet she punched way above her weight. She casually crept into the heart of anyone lucky enough to meet or just happen to converse with her.

My Mum always told me if your initials spelt a word it would bring you luck!
Winifred   Elsie    Barbe   {WEB}            W= Witty E Effervescent B = Beautiful
Then Becoming Winifred    Elsie    Eker {WEE} “always made me chuckle”
 W = Wise E = Eloquent E = Exquisite.

MEMORIES

Early in my life I learned mum spent her life in a hurry. Being dragged by your outstretched arm, feet running hardly touching the ground. As we made for the co-op down the bridge no time to waste. A hankie and spittle face scrub administered with precision, all taking less than 10 minutes. She was 45 now no letting up.
“Hey No wonder I’ve needed shoulder surgery it was her fault” Plus I inherited the 1000 miles an hour trait; at least I don’t wear a piny.
Oh one more thing this sweet smiling grey hair lady would skillfully empty anyone’s pockets foolish enough to sit in on a game of cards
Are all our mums special?

It would be easy to say yes on today of all day!   However to my siblings and my great fortune our mum genuinely was. These are a couple of the many reasons why; her humility, her humour, her work ethic, her sense of family, her knowledge, her compassion, her Corinthian spirit, and finally her GENEROSITY she gave all of these selflessly to one and all.
I occasionally made Mum cry thankfully with laughter sadly once in hurt I apologised it’s still a deep regret.
Having said that. Mum had one hell of a temper which usually cumulated in the hurling of any to hand missile. In my case the silver weddings present that manifested itself in a solid silver Calibri table lighter. Coming from the kitchen into the sitting room [we didn’t have lounges in Guernsey in those days. Well at least not down the Bridge] it almost knocking some sense into a cheeky teenager sadly it terrified Chummer our dog and the Budgie never recovered.
 “As young people Parents are surplus to requirement and they are invincible anyway”.
 
When I was 27 we lost our dad mum her husband of 40 plus years. This was the most sobering event in my selfish life to date. Mum became the anchor for me. She was devastated yet she was always there for Jean, Jeff, Sally and myself at different times. Never seeking thanks or making judgments just that warm smile a hug and “it will be alright love” would always calm the waves.

Then she lost her eldest daughter Jean a massive body blow again she rode it with dignity and great courage.
Within 4 years she had 4 more grandchildren and her first great-grandson.
My 4 kids and I would descend turning her garden into a summer campsite for a number of years. Without her store pot of monies those holidays would never of happened, think she enjoyed them as much as we did secretly.

Pat my wife to be met mum during very trying times and was captivated by this elegant understanding lady full of endless grace and warmness another one to Wyn’s collection.
From bottom of my heart it gives me the greatest pleasure to be able to call Winifred Else Eker my Mum!
Peacefully gone yet never to be forgotten.
 

The family of the Winifred Eker (Win) would like to take this opportunity to thank her doctors, Tom Littlefair and Peter Richards, for their care and kindness over the years and most especially they would like to thank the staff, friends and residents of Gardenia Lodge Residential Home for their many kindnesses and friendship.

We are sincerely grateful for the amazing lengths the staff went to by day and night to make Win feel so cherished and at home for the last five years to say nothing of the peace of mind derived by those who loved her, particularly those living off island.

I’m sure you have no idea what a great gift you have given us, may you be as blessed as we were.



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